SUCCESS COMES IN CANS

Feeling stuck is a common feeling for many of us.  We are in a job we hate, in a relationship going nowhere, cannot seem to get of the couch and get motivated to do anything useful.

It is a horrible feeling to live a life you are not happy with.  We search for answers, take self-help courses, go to counselling, pray, meditate, some of us reach for that addicting habit just to soothe our angst.

This feeling of stuckedness is not just in your head.  There are many reasons you feel the way you do, but as they say:

The only way out is to face your reality and work through it.

You work through it, and still no results.  You are still stuck.

Well, Success Comes in Cans, How to Grow a Miracle in 21 Days is not just another self-help book.  Most books read well, give you some ideas to grow, but after a while the old ways kick in, and that advice becomes a memory.

I am here to offer you a different way to go about solving your problems.

As you see, here is a money tree growing in a can labeled “reframe”, flanked by two other cans labeled “observe” and “plan.”

This is how you grow a miracle.

This is how you become unstuck.  This is how you get off the couch, or wherever you are stuck.  This is how you achieve your dreams.

21 days, you say.  How do you grow a miracle, anyway?

You take a problem, and you spend 7 days observing your thoughts about that problem.  What do you do on the couch all day?  How does that make you feel?  Are you depressed?  Obviously stuck in a rut, what keeps you there?

Week 1 – Observe

The first week, observe.  No judgement, no changes.  Just be a witness to your day.

The second week, you reframe those thoughts.  You have a pretty good idea why you remain where you are, how it makes you feel, and any limiting beliefs that keep you there.

Keep a journal so when you go back and read what you wrote, you will see patterns, good and bad, and gather clues on where you can improve.

Take those limiting beliefs and rewrite them.  From the first week, you discovered where they are coming from – what voices in your head – and from your past – are repeating those ideas.  Now you get to challenge them – perhaps for the first time in your life.   If you think you are worthless, by the time you finish this book, you will say “I AM POSSIBLE.”

The worst emotional pain people feel is rejection.

A social pain equivalent to a heart attack.  A social heart attack, if you will.  Your brain doesn’t know if the pain is from a real heart attack or a broken heart, all it knows is there is pain, and its job is to alleviate it.  So then we go into these self-blame theories – it must be me, I am worthless because no one loves me.

People who have been traumatized have these thoughts.  Most of us have been traumatized.  Few of us grow up with a stress-free, 100% loved-filled childhood.  Life is traumatic, no matter how hard you try to keep the demons away.  It is bound to bite you on the backside some time in your life.

Unless you have a solid system of “I am worthy,” those setbacks reinforce what you have believed all along.  “I am worthless.”

Week 2 – Reframe

In week two, you reframe these thoughts.  You are not worthless.  By reframing your thoughts, your habits automatically reframe as well.  Once you see you are not worthless, your confidence grows.

Week 3 – Plan

By week three, after agonizing over and examining the problem you want to solve, you come up with a plan.   What will it take to get off the couch?  Do you need to see a counsellor.  Or a doctor.  Perhaps you are ill.  Perhaps all you need is a buddy to cheer up your day!

But the point of this 21-day miracle, is by day 21, believe it or not, you will say, “It’s a miracle.”  If nothing else, you will say, “I did it, I made it through!”  That in itself is a miracle, especially if you are prone to giving up halfway through.

Making the 21 days gives you confidence that you can complete a task, no matter how small or mundane.

I use this process all the time.  It gives me a time frame to think about what’s bothering me and a way to come up with some plausible solutions to my problems.  This works with getting your finances in order, shedding those unwanted pounds, finding a better job.

This is not to say your world will completely change in 21 days, but that is a possibility.  This is also not to say you will shed all of your weight – or even find a better job in 21 days.  But it is to say, the 21 days has got you thinking, and if you have a plan, you know where to go from here.

And if you need another session, try another 21 days.  You’ll find better insights and come up with different solutions.

This is not heebie-jeebie stuff, folks.

This is the best thing I’ve found to getting out of my ruts.  Perhaps it is because it is time sensitive.  Perhaps it is because it delves deep into your thinking patterns and gives you a chance to face your shadow and your fears.  For many of us, being able to do just that is in itself a miracle.

I am curious if it works for other people as well as it works for me.  Read the book and let me know in the comments if you became unstuck.  It’s only 21 days.  What can you lose?

 

Wyoming has been in an unrelenting mental health crisis for some time.  Since 2018 the state has consistently taken the top spot in the nation for suicides. Having watched this trend with rising concern, I felt it was time to get to the root of the cause.  For years, Wyoming has been on a path of failed attempts to figure out what to do about this.  Finally, the issue has become one of importance in the minds of our leaders, and some steps are being taken to correct this problem.

But are we taking the right steps?  Have we looked at the brutal reality of why Wyoming residents continue to be so distraught? You will say we are a small population, and the numbers are skewed because of it.  Whether that is true or not, you cannot argue with the fact that a suicide occurs every other day in Wyoming!  Forget the numbers.  Let’s talk about the reasons why this is happening.

You won’t like what you read.  Wyoming also holds the #2 position for incarcerating our women!  In both the USA, and in the world, if every state were a country.  Most of the women are mothers.  What happens to the children while their mom is in jail?

General protocol is to separate the kids from the parents in times of trouble.  Domestic violence and incarceration of a parent (often both happen at the same time) and the children go to whoever can take them.  A child who is separated from their parent like this often carries the anxiety that goes along with it for their lifetime.

Wyoming has few tools to approach issues of mental health and low-level crimes, such as addiction, and there is little help for someone wanting to harm themselves.  Addiction and self-harm take years to manifest, and Wyoming is severely lacking in treating the trauma inflicted in childhood.   Our answer is to arrest and incarcerate.

Jail offers no treatment whatsoever if the high suicide rates in Wyoming’s jails are any indication.  If a person enters the judicial system because of misbehavior from a mental health condition, then not only are they dealing with the legalities of their illness, but also with the isolation and lack of connectedness that is detrimental to mental and social well-being.

The eight sustainable ways we can FIX these mental health concerns suggested here are not difficult to accomplish.  The hardest part will be getting people on the same page and agree to implementing such necessary changes.  My intent is to provide enough documentation of my claims that you, the reader, may explore these issues on your own.  Perhaps you will come to a different conclusion, or come up with your own ideas, but this is a place to start.

TAKE THE QUANTUM LEAP

When you think of quantum physics, you think of living in an alternate world.  This amazing “other” world, is a part of our everyday existence, we just don’t see it.

They say thoughts make who you are, but how do you shift from low-vibration, every-day thoughts to ones of abundance?

It takes some work, change doesn’t happen overnight, but there is more to it than just “thinking yourself rich.”

First, you have to get off the couch and put your thoughts into action.  In this book, you will learn about Hobson’s choice, which means sometimes we really don’t have a choice.  As Hobson says, “Only one horse is for sale.”  Read the book and you will understand.

Also discover how important it is to keep the faith and your eye on the goal.  We usually don’t think about these things when life is going well, but what if everything that could go wrong does?  Rather hard to keep the faith then.  Read how you can tap into that resilience and survive even the worst conditions.

Do you want to live past 100 years of age?  Explore this ancient culture and how they respect the elderly and see their older population as good fortune.  A lesson Americans could learn about aging.

There is more, but you’ll just have to read the book and see for yourself.

ABUNDANCE

What does abundance look like?
Is it owning a room full of gold?
Laying in a field of flowers?

Or perhaps living in Shangri-La?

When do you know when you have enough? Where do you find abundance in the first place?

We are told to “have a better life,” but no instructions come with that advice. We wander around blindly, without direction, looking for the path of our dreams.

Finding self-esteem, losing weight, becoming less depressed – we should naturally know how to do these things, but we don’t.

And then we feel like failures because our dreams never happen. You are not a failure. You just need a blueprint to reach your goals.

IN THIS BOOK, YOU WILL FIND:

• a no-nonsense approach to building a kinder self-image
• how people turn peak experiences into life-defining moments
• the real world Shangri-La where people live beyond the age of 100
• what an ancient great swordsman says about spirit and iron will
• how to live a life or happiness and prosperity
• how to build meditation and gratitude into your day
  

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Come, Take the Quantum Leap. Watch YOUR DREAMS come true.

160,000 AMERICAN CHILDREN STAY HOME FROM SCHOOL EACH DAY TO AVOID THEIR BULLY

There is much talk about, and many books written on the subject, but it seems bullying in schools is getting worse, instead of better.

Beat a Bully Without a Fight is about preventing bullying and how parents can help their child overcome this problem that can lead to depression, ostracism, and worse…

Rather than punishing children for not getting along, this book advocates for teaching both the bully and the bullied to resolve conflict peaceably.

The secret is solving the conflict when the problem is small.

This book brings perspective and understanding to this serious state of affairs that plagues our society

 

Bullying is all too prevalent in today’s society

Turn on the news and you see a bully. Adult bullies are more experienced than kids because they’ve had their way for years. They have their tactics down pat. The boy that got away with bullying the kids on the playground is now a full-fledged leader, a boss, a politician, a CEO of a company.

It isn’t just school children that want to say home from their bully. How awful going to work each day, knowing you will be harassed, yet again. Or in a rotten relationship where you never know from one minute to the next what to expect with your house-mate’s behavior.

The tips in this book are not just for parents to understand their child’s bully.

If you find yourself in a situation where you don’t want to go to work, don’t want to get out of bed, don’t want to face the day because you are living with constant angst about someone in your life messing with you, it is time to take stock of your priorities and figure out a way to get rid of your bully.

Children do not have the emotional capability of dealing with such trauma. They internalize their problems and blame them on themselves. It doesn’t help matters when they are constantly told how stupid, ugly, or fat they are. Teased about their clothing, their sexual orientation, the way they walk.

People who bully will do just about anything possible to humiliate you. It makes them feel like they are “somebody.” We know this, but it is hard to process when your mind is rumbling from humiliation. Social pain is real. The pain you feel from rejection is not “all in your head.” The pain is in your heart, your mind, and your body.

This is no way for anyone to live. What do you do if your child is faced with a bully and no one is taking them seriously? If the situation cannot be resolved, for your sake and your child’s, take them away from the situation.

The longer you live in trauma, the deeper the chasms of that trauma are ingrained in your brain. It is up to each of us to protect our person, our peace, our energy from harmful and toxic sources.

If you won’t eat a poisonous plant, why would ask yourself or your child to have a toxic life?