ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A STALKER?
Does someone repeatedly –
1. Call you with unwanted phone calls
2. Send you unsolicited or unwanted letters or e-mails
3. Follow or spy on you
4. Show up at places where you are without a legitimate reason
5. Wait for you at places where you will be
6. Leave unwanted items, presents, or flowers
7. Post information or spread rumors about you on the internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth
8. Threaten to kill, or does kill, your pet
Do these actions cause you a great deal of fear?
This is the definition of stalking by the Department of Justice.
You are being stalked if you can answer yes to two or more of these and say they happen on a repeated and regular basis.
You are most definitely not alone!
This is a crime that goes unnoticed until someone gets seriously hurt, if even then. The victim tells family, friends, and law enforcement there is a stalker in their midst, but the pleas are ignored. A stalker can appear in your life at any time, either over the internet or physically, or both, and like 7.5 million Americans who report stalking every year, your life will be turned upside down.
the story behind the book
“It is impossible to describe the taste of blowfish
to one who has never eaten it.”
This saying certainly applies to the feeling when stalked. “It is impossible to describe the feeling of stalking to one who has never experienced it.”
In Seven Summers of Stalking: The #1 crime against women, my goal is to describe to the reader the personal and financial devastation that comes as a result of being stalked, what a stalker looks like, and what we, as a society can do about it.
This is not your regular horror story of an intimate or partner stalker. My stalkers are professional, they obviously have stalked before, and there is nothing “intimate” about them. Yes, there is more than one. They couldn’t have pulled it off otherwise!
Stalkers are grown-up bullies that have their act figured out to perfection.
My main stalker was elected to an insignificant position in my small backwoods rural community. This made him think he was a big fish and had a free pass to act above the law. The story, in a nutshell, consists of a road that had been public for one-hundred years, and he decided to take it for himself.
Instead of going through the proper process, knowing the only way he could get that road was to scam it, this is what he did. He had enough people in high places that helped him “acquire” his road, including a judge.
Unfortunately, the road lies between him and me – in more ways than just physical. Of course, as any good citizen would do, I protested his stealing of the road, and the fight was on. It was time to purge the world of me, and short of murder, that is exactly what he set out to do.
It is amazing how someone can lie to the cops, repeatedly file false reports, take their lying witnesses to the judge, and people believe them. Gossip and lies about someone spread like wildfire – and in a small town it takes about an hour for everyone to know.
He used me as a coverup for his collusion. Smoke and mirrors. “Mind your own business or I’m calling the cops!” I mind my own business and he calls the cops, anyway! He has himself convinced I sit in my house day after day plotting ways to ruin him.
In this dog-eat-dog world, the biggest dog gets the bone, and that is exactly what he did.
I would tell the judge these people were stalking me and setting me up, that if he would tell them to leave me alone I would not keep showing up in his courtroom, but I found out the hard way.
Justice is blind.
And maybe deaf, too, because the judge sure did not hear me when I spoke.
Well, my stalkers loved it. They had a judge that encouraged them to continue with their lies and collusion.
A sociopath is someone who is charismatic, everyone likes him, you wouldn’t think he would be up to the things he does. But he hides his misdeeds through his charms. And people believe him.
If it were one person, maybe this wouldn’t have dragged on as long as it did. But his friends live on the other three sides from me. So I am surrounded by stalkers and he had a system set up so that every time I walked out my door, he knew it.
It turned out it was a scam within a scam. His “friends” were destroying his property and blaming it on me. It worked perfectly for them until one day I caught them red-handed.
It is sad to say the justice system is messed up because people do not do their jobs. In my case, the people who knew better were making up rules as they went. They did not care they violated every Constitutional right I had!
As long as they keep me down so they can hide their crimes, it is all good.
People do not understand these words:
“I am innocent, I did not do it.”
“Right,” they say, “the prisons are full of people who didn’t ‘do’ it.”
This is why America holds the highest incarceration rate per
capita of anywhere in the world.
It would be horrible to be convicted of murder and be innocent. But, as we know, it happens!!
As devastating as it is, my experience is mild compared to what many people go through.
Imagine, spending your life in prison – or going to the death chamber – for a crime you did not commit.
This experience has made me painfully aware of what so many Americans are up against today. A person’s life can be ruined, forever, because of misidentification by a bystander or a messed-up DNA test.
And ruin your life it does.
Even after people are cleared of their crime, they are still regarded in their community as “that criminal.” A run-in with the law haunts you for the rest of your life.
Most of us are aware of this and live our lives accordingly. Don’t break the law and you have nothing to worry about. . . after all, we have rights! But unfortunately, depending on your sex, the color of your skin, and your financial status, that isn’t always the case.
an excerpt from the book
The Impact on the Family
When a child dies before the parents die, the parents suffer greatly. The second greatest suffering is watching your daughter live in an abusive relationship and that is all you can do – watch.
Whatever you do makes the situation worse, and one day you realize everyone is better off if you step away as far as you can. One hand on the phone, ready to call the police, the other hand pulling in the children to give them comfort – once again.
Watching and waiting is agonizing. The mother waits for two things: “Mom, come get me.” “Mom, he hurt me.” The mother is worried. He is mean and out of control. Her daughter and the children are in danger. She is afraid that the final call will not be from her daughter, but from the police, bringing the news her daughter is dead.
One day, hopefully before the “he-hurt-me” call, the daughter will call for help to get out – for the last time. She has made her resolution, she cannot tolerate the abuse any longer. The mother sighs with relief and does everything she can to help her daughter get back on her feet; tenuously waiting for her to change her mind and go back – once again.
This cycle continues until one day the daughter decides it is over. Or is it? She decides to leave, but her man is still hanging around, and the contacts create fear. It is time to end this, but he cannot let go.
After the divorce and the drama are ended, the woman wonders what took her so long. Why did she not get out years ago? How could she be so blind to fall for such a man in the first place? She swears she is done with men.
Children are in the middle of this violence, torn between their parents, trying to decide who is right and who is wrong, lost between two adults who are shattering their lives. If their mother moves away from the stalker, this also has repercussions on them; leaving home, school and friends, and starting a new life elsewhere – often repeatedly moving to avoid the stalker that follows them.
Psychological angst produces stress in a dose-response manner. The higher the dose, the more intense the response. Stalking is a crime that covers years of worry and anxiety. Victims of stalkers have elevated levels of mental distress. Three-quarters of the women who have an intimate relationship with their stalker meet the criteria for PTSD (Blaauw et al, 2002).
Socioeconomic factors contribute to family violence. Poverty fosters incarceration. Or is poverty a result of incarceration? This is a chicken-and-egg conundrum. Children do not learn strong social skills in an impoverished environment, whether economically or emotionally. Lack of social skills often leads to incarceration. And so the cycle continues…
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