Negative People Bring you Down

if you avoid conflict to keep the peace you start a war inside yourselfWhat would happen if you got rid of all the negative people in your life? The complainers, whiners, and manipulators. The abusers.

If you stopped associating with all those people who bring you grief, who would be left?  What percentage of your life consists of negativity?

We know, intellectually, that negative people bring us down, but even so, we live, work, sleep and eat with them.  We do our best to ignore them, to appease them, to understand them, but by the end of the day, we are tired of their drama.

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Stopping Self-Sabotage

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Do you sometimes feel like you are your own worst enemy?

Do people get in the way of your plans?

Do you give in to the pressure of others?

These areVictim behaviors are learned responses to the people around us.  Stopping self-sabotage is a matter of identifying the signals we give that shout “victim.” Continue reading Stopping Self-Sabotage

Stuck in a Thought Rut

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The next time you are stuck in a thought rut with deep, dark thoughts, try this mindfulness exercise to chase the darkness away

 

Stop and look around. Going into nature is the best, looking out a window is second best, but even your office cubical has interesting things to focus on. Continue reading Stuck in a Thought Rut

The Meaning of Healing

How do you know when you are healed? What exactly is the meaning of “healing?”

A cut heals into a scar. We say the cut is “healed,” but the reminder is there in the form of a scar. Is a scar a form of healing?  Physical scars are usually a tear in the skin – whether a big tear or as a knife wound, or a small tear – a prick of the finger with a pin.

Our bodies have an amazing capacity to rejuvenate and grow. Growth is one of the requirements of a living organism. Growth and reproduction.
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